“To meet complaint with unrequested council earns for the advisor a fortune of hidden contempt" -- Greek proverb
Here's some unsolicited advice: check your own ego at the door before presuming to offer counsel to someone else. Telltale signs of a compromised ego on the part of the advice-giver include an increased feeling of power, disguised criticism, masked control, or grandiose self-perception. Heal thyself.
Even assuming the purity of the giver's intention, one needs to be conscious how the receiver might hear these "well-meaning" words i.e. I think you're inadequate and incompetent, and you require my superior knowledge and wisdom to move forward and, without my help and intervention, you are a helpless victim incapable of dealing with your own problems and, furthermore, I'm making it my mission to change you so that you fit into my ideal of who I think you should be instead of accepting you as you are.
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