Fearing Our Own Power

There is an old adage that says, be careful what you wish for, you might just get it.

Life is full of missed opportunities, losses, and failures. Anyone who has experienced a major setback – launched and lost a significant enterprise; built “it” and they did not come; fallen in love, married, only to divorce – develops a fear of loss and is naturally afraid to go out on a limb. 

A male is focused on food, shelter, security, and sex. A man, then, is the male who can make and keep a commitment and die for a cause he believes in. A superior man, or woman (Narges Mohammadi, the winner of the 2023 Nobel Peace Prize) strives to give more than s/he takes, hoping to make a small dent in the universe to promote the advancement of human evolution.

One of the great benefits of launching our City Club community is the privilege of mentoring some of our members. Whether it’s a member’s 17-year-old son embarking on the dating world and experimenting with alcohol and drugs, a new college graduate striving for that first job, or a late-20s member facing the decision of whether his girlfriend would make a good wife, or the late-30s member struggling to establish a career and purchase a house, everyone is a candidate for solid mentorship.

Some of our members in their early 40s have already made a fortune only to ask ‘What now?” Others in their 50s are struggling to revisit abandoned dreams. The common denominator amongst all these members is whether or not those very instincts that powered them to their incredible achievements can be trusted to carry them on to future successes. 

Looking back at my own past failures, I see that I have often acted as my own worst enemy by doubting myself, not trusting my own strength, and fearing my own power.

If you are at a crossroads in life, and your monkey mind is bouncing off the walls like a pinball in an arcade game, dream big, take risks, and trust you have the power to achieve it. The alternative is a safe life and a slow death.

Don’t pull a Chamberlain.

— Sina.