The United States Surgeon General has declared loneliness the number one epidemic in America. Loneliness and social isolation profoundly affect both mental and physical health, raising the risk of heart disease, stroke, dementia, depression, and premature death.
I speak from experience, having suffered two heart attacks and carrying five stents in my heart, which I largely attribute to my first eight lonely and difficult years in America, and later, a divorce. Picture a geeky, foreign teenage engineering student struggling with language, culture, and a lack of friends—a stranger in a strange land.
Recognizing the magnitude of the problem, modern-day snake-oil salesmen peddle “community” alongside whatever else they’re selling. Starbucks calls itself “The Third Place,” yet removes seating from its 38,000 locations and locks its bathrooms. Step into a modern office or co-working space, and you’ll find folks wearing earbuds to signal, “Don’t bug me.”…
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