The Surgeon General of the United States has identified loneliness as one of America’s most serious public health challenges. Mental health professionals increasingly link chronic loneliness to a range of addictions, from overeating and substance abuse to pornography and alcoholism. Human beings are wired for connection, and when meaningful relationships are absent, we often seek substitutes that temporarily ease the pain but rarely satisfy the deeper need.
Making friends and keeping them requires time, vulnerability, and emotional investment. The easiest time in life to make friends may be freshman year of college, when everyone is new, uncertain, and actively looking for connection.
Friends come in many varieties: close, casual, lifelong, fair-weather, and sometimes toxic. In recent decades, our culture has added another category: “friends with benefits,” people who are physically attracted to one another, engage in casual sex, and intentionally avoid the commitment of a romantic partnership…
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